This is an interesting discussion. It touches indirectly on the difference between tolerating something and condoning something.
Personally there are a lot of things that I tolerate in society that I do not condone – that is things that I do not agree with. These days, in many parts of the country, this distinction is lost but in different ways. On the west coast where I now live it turns out that if I disagree with something I’m pegged as being “intolerant”. In the southeast, where I grew up if I say I tolerate something I’m pegged as agreeing with it. About the only place where I’ve seen most people implicitly make this distinction is in NYC. New Yorkers will tolerate almost anything but will tell you in a heartbeat if they disagree with you and why. And they don’t really care if you agree with them or not. In its way it’s quite refreshing.
I’m going to pick on smoking to make this a little more clear (sorry, but please give me just a little slack to make a point).
I personally don’t smoke but I have friends that do. I am friends with them in spite of the fact that they smoke (and I’m sure visa-versa). I don’t go out of my way to chastise them for smoking. But I do not think smoking is right (morally). I personally think smoking is harmful and unhealthy both to individuals as well as to society. I don’t want to be around people when they’re smoking. I don’t want them trying to convince me to smoke. And if they ask I will tell them what I think about smoking and I expect them to respect it as my opinion and stance.
Now the analogy to smoking above can be applied to many things in today’s society that one might tolerate but yet might not agree with. One could replace “smoking” with many other aspects of society today and I would basically have the same stance.
And here’s one more somewhat tangential tidbit. It has been said that “Civilizations are born stoic and die epicurean”. History to an extent bears that out. Just something to think about…
Personally there are a lot of things that I tolerate in society that I do not condone – that is things that I do not agree with. These days, in many parts of the country, this distinction is lost but in different ways. On the west coast where I now live it turns out that if I disagree with something I’m pegged as being “intolerant”. In the southeast, where I grew up if I say I tolerate something I’m pegged as agreeing with it. About the only place where I’ve seen most people implicitly make this distinction is in NYC. New Yorkers will tolerate almost anything but will tell you in a heartbeat if they disagree with you and why. And they don’t really care if you agree with them or not. In its way it’s quite refreshing.
I’m going to pick on smoking to make this a little more clear (sorry, but please give me just a little slack to make a point).
I personally don’t smoke but I have friends that do. I am friends with them in spite of the fact that they smoke (and I’m sure visa-versa). I don’t go out of my way to chastise them for smoking. But I do not think smoking is right (morally). I personally think smoking is harmful and unhealthy both to individuals as well as to society. I don’t want to be around people when they’re smoking. I don’t want them trying to convince me to smoke. And if they ask I will tell them what I think about smoking and I expect them to respect it as my opinion and stance.
Now the analogy to smoking above can be applied to many things in today’s society that one might tolerate but yet might not agree with. One could replace “smoking” with many other aspects of society today and I would basically have the same stance.
And here’s one more somewhat tangential tidbit. It has been said that “Civilizations are born stoic and die epicurean”. History to an extent bears that out. Just something to think about…